Alcoholism is a family disease that affects the children of problem drinkers. Those of us who grew up in alcoholic homes or whose parents grew up in alcoholic homes tend to have similar problems. As adults many of us struggle with our emotions and eventually come to wonder if we were adversely affected by growing up with a problem drinker. Answering the following questions may provide some insight and clarity. Al-Anon Adult Children may be able to help.
1. Do you constantly seek approval and affirmation?
2. Do you fail to recognize your accomplishments?
3. Do you fear criticism?
4. Do you overextend yourself?
5. Have you had problems with your own compulsive behavior?
6. Do you have a need for perfection?
7. Are you uneasy when your life is going smoothly, continually anticipating problems?
8. Do you feel more alive in the midst of a crisis?
9. Do you still feel responsible for others, as you did for the problem drinker in your life?
10. Do you care for others easily, yet find it difficult to care for yourself?
11. Do you isolate yourself from other people?
12. Do you respond with fear to authority figures and angry people?
13. Do you feel that individuals and society in general are taking advantage of you?
14. Do you have trouble with intimate relationships?
15. Do you confuse pity with love, as you did with the problem drinker?
16. Do you attract and/or seek people who tend to be compulsive and abusive?
17. Do you cling to relationships because you are afraid of being alone?
18. Do you mistrust your own feelings and the feelings expressed by others?
19. Do you find it difficult to identify and express your emotions?
20. Do you think parental drinking may have affected you?
If you answered yes to some of these questions, Al-Anon Adult Children may be able to help you.
Rhode Island AFG Office, 106 Rolfe Street, Cranston, RI 02910
The office is staffed by volunteers whose hours vary frequently.
Listen to the office recording - 401-781-0044 - to learn when the office will be open.